Dear Dan,
Thank you for your channel. I enjoy watching your videos.
I've been meaning to send in my story for a while, needed the festive break to find time. This could be a very long story but I'll try to keep it short. It stretches back to 2004.
Part 1)
I met my first Thai girlfriend when she was working as an Escort in London back in 2004. She was incredible. So sexy, gorgeous dark skin, lovely long black hair, and - most special - talked in a very nice way - I loved listening to her talk - and I fell head over heals for her. I saw her a few times in London before she returned back to Thailand, and we kept in touch.
I came over to Thailand (Pattaya) to see her not long after. Stayed in a hotel, met the family (she has a son.) Did some of the tourist stuff. It was good.
At the time I was 30-ish and she was actually 6 years older than me.
Because of how long ago it was the details are a bit hazy to me now but it went something like this:
I'd visit her usually 2 times a year. We'd have an okay time - when I saw her that was. She was often busy with her life, even when her boyfriend had travelled thousands of miles to see her. A few times she offloaded me to her ladyboy friends (one of whom I really liked) and the ladyboys and I had some crazy nights out (of course I was paying for everything).
Unsurprisingly, especially considering the start of the relationship, money was involved. I was probably sending her £500 per month, then there were a lot of extras. I'd actually had an inheritance of about £100'000 not long before I met her. It all went to Thailand on her business schemes that always turned out to be a total disaster. I had naively hoped she could make a successful business so I wouldn't need to send her money any more.
I'm thinking around 2007, I must have been £15k in debt. Living in a bedsit in South East London. Still working in my job and sending her money every month.
Because all the Thai businesses she'd invested my money in had gone sour, she ended up selling drugs in Thailand. And must have been around 2007 that she got caught by the police and had to go to Chonburi Women's Correctional Institution. She spent 2 years there and I visited a couple of times.
I remained her boyfriend throughout her incarceration. Sending money every month to her brother to pass on to her (not so much whilst she was in prison - say £200 per month). But whilst in Thailand for the purpose of visiting her in prison, I'd met someone else in Pattaya. When she came out of prison, not long after, I finished with her.
I do wonder if the two years in prison may have made her a better person. Even now, I wonder if I made a mistake finishing with her then. After finishing I kept in touch with her for a bit, and I know she married a nice Englishman working in Asia. As far as I know, they had and still have a happy marriage.
I don't regret blowing £100k on a hooker and some drugs too, it was fantastic life experience. My brother did the sensible thing with his £100k inheritance, and bought a house, and got married to an English lady, but then got divorced and lost it all. At least I had a blast with my £100k.
Onto the next Thai girl.
Part 2)
The next Thai lady I met whilst she was working as a hostess in an agogo bar. At the time (say 2010) she was a very skinny girl. Nice personality. Cute. A bit emo. Quite different to the previous Thai girlfriend. She had twin daughters from a previous Thai boyfriend, which is why she was working in an agogo bar. She's 2 years younger than me.
She is a Laem Chabang girl.
And it's now nearly 2024 and I've been with her since. We even got married in 2020 just before COVID struck. The idea of getting married was her idea to make it easier to get a VISA. To be honest, the marriage was a mistake. I don't like marriage, wish I hadn't done it, my fault for being too laid back about the whole thing and just going along with it.
With the COVID lockdowns, and my lack of motivation to get back to Thailand, I didn't see her in Thailand for 2 and a half years. When I saw her in late 2022, it was okay.
After all these years, she's not so skinny. She was 40kg when we first met, and more like 60kg now. I'm not turned on by her in a sexual way any more. She's pleasant company. A nice girl. A bit boring. She does very little but watch TV - sometimes fishing or camping with friends. And I've never brought her back to England because I realize I enjoy my life living alone in England, and I think it would be a disaster letting someone invade my space.
Many times I've thought of finishing and there have been moments it came very close. Times when I gave her the silent treatment for a long time. I ended up feeling bad. I'm very sure she has no one else (she did change her surname to mine after getting married.)
I was going to visit her in October 2023, but decided at the last minute not to go. Thing is, I couldn't get a refund for the flight ticket, so went to Bangkok anyway and had a really good week by myself. Think I needed to get that out of my system.
Whilst the relationship is far from perfect, I've come to terms with not wanting anyone else in my life. If I did finish with her, I will never have another relationship in my life. It is easy, peaceful and very stress free for me to be a selfish happy loner. Sending her money - £500 - every month is probably the only non-selfish thing I do in my life. Perhaps I worry what would happen to her and her daughters if I turned off the ATM, and I care enough to keep sending money whilst I can and it's not too much of a financial drain on my resources.
Her daughters are 21 now. By strange coincidence, one daughter is in Chonburi Women's Correctional Institution, having been caught with a stash of drugs.
I'm visiting the wife again at the end of February 2024.
End of story for now.
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