Recently, I have come
to the realization that there are demons in my mind. I need to learn
to control those demons. The demons seek self-destruction. Demons
will send you down a self-destructive path.
4: Love your wife (actually still girlfriend but need to change that). Don't cheat on her even in your mind (no fantasizing over porn - if you absolutely have to pleasure yourself, do it over a picture of your girl...)
5: Your body is a temple. Find time for exercise, it is important - a healthy body leads to a healthy mind.
6: Keep busy and productive. Best way to keep the demons away is by keeping busying doing productive/positive things.
7: “You the possessors are possessed!” I've wasted a lot of money buying/selling cars. The reality is that I'm not a possessive person, I'd rather be free from possessions (including house if I didn't need a crib). I will let what possessions I have possess me for now, but don't want any more possessions. Don't want to change car again as I know this doesn't equate to happiness and contentment. I have a fantastic pair of cars! My goal is financial freedom!
I often get the
chanting “nobody likes you, nobody likes you” and in all honesty,
it hurts. I'm an introvert, I'm not particularly comfortable around
people, an immense relief lifts when I escape back to my own company.
At the same time, everyone wants to be liked. The reality – as with
all these things we worry about – is somewhat less extreme. People
are ambivalent about me, like I am ambivalent about them.
To succeed in society,
you need people to like you, at least enough to get things done (get
work done.) And you're only in control of yourself. All you can do is
love and care about all people, treat them with the respect (unless
they do something to make them undeserving of respect), and accept
that you don't desire their company, nor they desire your company; whilst at the same time being a professional and getting the job done (perhaps even a professional collaboration.)
If people hate you
because of the person you are, so be it. There's only so much a
person can do to change themselves. We can all strive to make
ourselves a better person, but certain character traits, natural
preferences, will not go away, they are what makes you you.
Demons will also go on
about “I hate myself, I'm no good, I'm useless, I might as well lay
down and die...” Demons are the worst form of negative. You need to
be positive, care and love yourself (as well as care and love
others), believe in yourself, and above all, fight to survive, fight
to keep that survival instinct which is the whole point of life –
fight to survive, and fight for others to survive!
Other demons take away
your concentration. Want you to be lazy and unproductive. Things
might be boring at the base of it, but there's always value to doing
productive things.
7 ways I am going to
fight my inner demons?
1: Accept your nature
(don't fight it). Accept your are an introvert by nature, you don't
desire to have others company, and if other's don't want your
company, that is fine (and understandable.) You cannot control what other people think.
2: Believe in yourself.
You are an exceptional person capable of great things. Nothing is
too difficult for you. You can be a contender in anything you set
your mind to (not you “could've been a contender.”)
3: Don't worry what the future holds. If you get sacked you'll survive. A sacking can turn into an awesome new opportunity.
3: Don't worry what the future holds. If you get sacked you'll survive. A sacking can turn into an awesome new opportunity.
4: Love your wife (actually still girlfriend but need to change that). Don't cheat on her even in your mind (no fantasizing over porn - if you absolutely have to pleasure yourself, do it over a picture of your girl...)
5: Your body is a temple. Find time for exercise, it is important - a healthy body leads to a healthy mind.
6: Keep busy and productive. Best way to keep the demons away is by keeping busying doing productive/positive things.
7: “You the possessors are possessed!” I've wasted a lot of money buying/selling cars. The reality is that I'm not a possessive person, I'd rather be free from possessions (including house if I didn't need a crib). I will let what possessions I have possess me for now, but don't want any more possessions. Don't want to change car again as I know this doesn't equate to happiness and contentment. I have a fantastic pair of cars! My goal is financial freedom!
Image: Depression
and Anxiety by Geoff Adams
